“I had no idea how much thought really needed to go into thinking about having kids. It is so much more than just deciding to have kids and picking out a name while dreaming of the future.”
As a therapist, and a mother, I understand that having a child can be a life-changing experience for couples. While it can be an exciting and rewarding time, it can also be overwhelming and stressful. I also place a strong emphasis on improving communication skills between partners. Effective communication is essential for successful co-parenting, and I will work with you to develop healthy communication habits, learn to express your needs and concerns constructively, and practice active listening skills.
I understand that preparing for parenthood can be a stressful and anxiety-provoking experience, which is why I will teach you coping strategies to manage stress and anxiety. These skills can include mindfulness practices, relaxation techniques, and cognitive-behavioral therapy. Together, we will work towards making you feel more confident and less overwhelmed as you prepare for parenthood.
In addition to addressing your concerns, I will help you work through any unresolved relationship issues that may be affecting your decision to have a child. This can include conflicts around division of labor, financial disagreements, or unresolved emotional issues.
My approach focuses on providing a safe and supportive environment where couples can explore their fears, concerns, and questions about becoming parents. Through our sessions, we will address any fears and concerns you may have, including worries about being a good parent, the financial impact of raising a child, and the physical and emotional changes that come with pregnancy and childbirth.
Finally, I will help you develop a plan for coping with unexpected challenges that may arise during the process of becoming parents, such as infertility or unexpected medical issues during pregnancy. Through therapy and counseling, I am committed to helping monogamous couples feel more confident and prepared for the rewarding experience of becoming parents.
“As a polyamorous person, I had doubts about starting a family due to the complexities of multiple relationships. However, therapy provided me with a safe space to work through my fears and develop a plan that felt authentic to my values and relationships. Now, I feel empowered and excited to start a family. I’m grateful for the support I received in therapy.”
Raising a child is a monumental task, and having the support of a strong community can make all the difference. For polyamorous individuals, their chosen tribe is often their polycule, a group of individuals with whom they share deep emotional connections and a commitment to mutual support. With their unique bond and diverse skill sets, polycules can be uniquely qualified to create a loving and nurturing village for their children to grow up in.
Starting a family can be complex for polyamorous individuals, as it can involve navigating various challenges. For example, questions around whose last name the child will take, how finances will be managed, and legal guardianship can be especially complicated without the legal protections afforded to married individuals. Additionally, some may worry about the potential for jealousy or concerns about someone’s bond with a partner becoming stronger because of their shared experience of having a child. However, therapy can help polyamorous individuals work through these complexities and develop strategies for successful co-parenting that align with their unique values and relationship dynamics.
Polyamorous individuals often have a larger support network, which can be a huge asset when it comes to raising children. However, this can also lead to challenges in coordinating schedules, managing different parenting styles, and establishing clear boundaries and expectations among partners. Through therapy, polycules can work together to develop strategies for effective co-parenting and establish healthy communication patterns that allow for successful collaboration. By leveraging the strengths of their relationships and working together as a team, polyamorous individuals can create a supportive and fulfilling environment for raising children.
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The Ethical Slut, Third Edition: A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships, and Other Freedoms in Sex and Love*
A sex-positive, affirming, and validating resource about the different types of CNM that was written for the widest possible audience. The Ethical Slut was written by Janet W. Hardy and Dossie Easton. Dossie is a therapist that specializes in alternative sexualities as well as nontraditional relationships, and Janet was known in the first edition as Catherine A. Liszt. Together they have been lovers, dear friends, and coauthors. The book is currently in it’s third edition, and the ISBN number is 978-0-39957-966-0.
Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Non-Monogamy*
A great polyamory resource about extending attachment theory into the realm of CNM by Jessica Fern with a foreword by Eve Rickert and Nora Samaran published in 2020 (and it has an accompanying workbook!). ISBN-10: 1944934987